So you finally did it. You stopped talking about it, you went out and did it. You booked your very first scene. If you have been reading the articles on the this site you’ve researched the industry, decided exactly what you are comfortable performing on screen and made a plan for your time in the industry. You’re excited and ready to have fun, but a little nervous. The insecurities start to set in and every question you ask yourself begins with the phrase, “what if?” Here are a few of my tips for having a great first day and every day thereafter on set.
Each scene really starts when you have the call sheet in your email or hand. Always read it completely with an eye for the correct details. Mistakes do happen from time to time, so check that the booking details reflect what you agreed upon as far as sex act, partner, and rate. Make sure you understand exactly when you are due on set, where the set is, and what you need to bring. If anything is unclear, don’t be too shy to ask. Preparation may be as simple as digging a certain colored bra/panty set out of your wardrobe as well as googling driving directions or it may require a shopping trip for wardrobe that you need, but don’t own. If you get your call sheet too late to grab requested items, don’t panic. If you can’t find the location in Mapquest, again, don’t panic. Call the production manager. Discuss your issues with them so that it doesn’t take up any unnecessary time on set and you can show up ready to shoot on time with the required articles. Most shoot days are crazy busy and there just isn’t any time for avoidable problems. Double check, triple check the information that you have been given and have no doubts that you understand what is expected of you. Put your set bag by the door or even put it in your car the night before if you have an early call and know you will be not be at 100% when you wake. I can’t stress enough how important it is to be completely certain of what you agreed to do. I like to write things in my day planner by hand even if I have an emailed call sheet. It helps me keep the details straight, especially if I have multiple shoots.
When you arrive at the shoot location, make sure you park in the appropriate place as specified in your call sheet. This is extremely important if you are in a residential neighborhood. A location owner’s neighbors must be respected at all times as any unexpected visitors such as law enforcement can be a problem Be mindful of following any location rules once inside such as taking shoes off instantly and as you walk in try to ascertain if there is any shooting in progress. No one wants to have to shush grownups nor do you want the embarrassment of ruining an epic pop shot by being noisy. When it is appropriate take the time to introduce yourself to the entire crew. Ask them questions about the directors like and dislikes, they are generally extremely knowledgeable and very happy to advise. Their knowledge can easily turn a ten hour day into a five hour one plus their input regarding your performance on set can make a difference in whether you are asked back or not. If you wore anything to set that might leave lines on your body, make sure that you change into a robe before sitting down in the makeup chair. If you are handed a script with dialogue, take the time to learn it. While some directors don’t mind feeding you lines, it’ll go much faster and smoother if you already have a firm grasp of the material.
Not only should you make an effort to know the material, you should also make an effort to get to know a little about your costar. Flirt with them a bit, show an interest in them. Make them feel like you are excited to work with them, even if you aren’t. Ask them what they like, what they dislike and plan to incorporate those guidelines into the scene along with any other specific acts you are required to do. Maybe it seems like a bit extra effort to do these things, but it makes a huge difference in both the hotness of the scene and how smoothly it goes. For heaven’s sake, if you are working with someone having a problem (i.e. a guy having erection issues), help them! Don’t just stand there twiddling your thumbs complaining about it. Be proactive and keep that smile on your face. Chances are you are going to be in uncomfortable positions that you have to make look effortless, again, smile through it and push forward. The faster the director gets his shot, the faster you can move onto something hopefully much more comfortable. Keeping your costar engaged in the scene will carry you through the not so fun positions, it will help you ignore the burning in your thighs from reverse cowgirl and will translate into rarely having a day on set with wood problems . The largest sex organ we have is the brain, use it. Do everything you can to connect with your partner and the scene will generally be a good one.
What about the physical part of the job? Relax. If you’ve been flirting with your costar while waiting for your turn to do your scene, you are probably just a little bit if not a lot excited already. There should always be douche, enemas, baby wipes, Altoids mouthwash, and other items to keep yourself fresh. Use them. I always recommend packing these items in your set bag just in case. Cleanliness is important, however, sometimes things happen. I’ve been in the middle of a scene and discovered that there was a piece of toilet paper in my butt crack. Embarrassing, but it happens. Laugh it off and move on. Remember to bring anything that you prefer such as lube, hypoallergenic toys (i.e. some toys are bad for people with latex allergies). Generally speaking, companies don’t have huge selections of lube, toys, etc at hand nor are actors preferences high on the list when picking what to bring to set from the warehouse. Feel free to ask to see your costars test if they don’t volunteer to show it to you. Anyone reputable will have no issues with this and if they do, speak up immediately. i also always discreetly visually give my partner’s genitals a glance as we are getting started to make sure that everything looks good. If there is anything that doesn’t look right, stop, approach the situation delicately. Don’t just ignore any potential warning signs, this is your health. Take responsibility for yourself, don’t expect others to do it for you. That philosophy also applies if you happen to have any sort of infection. Stay home until you are well. Don’t knowingly pass on your infection to others.
These are just a few of my tips for having a successful day on set especially when you are brand new. Most of the terms will be unfamiliar and it may seem like people are talking to you in Greek. That’s ok. Listen, learn, and enjoy! You are only young and beautiful once. As you progress and grow into a true adult entertainer, people will ask you if you are comfortable doing crazier and crazier things. Think carefully about more than just the money they are offering. Is this something that you are truly comfortable with? If you aren’t, it will show on camera. Someone once told me many, many years ago that in the end you are the one that must look in the mirror every day. Only you has to look at that refection staring back at you and live with it. Don’t ever forget that and let that be your guide. Always ask yourself if you can live with the person in the mirror before you say yes to anything.
Courtesy of Kiki Daire
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